Think before you speak....

"Think before you speak," is an adage that has been spoken to us from a very early age. Due to recent events I am not so certain this is something that is as ingrained in all of us like I once may have thought. When my friends and I sat around yesterday recapping the unexpected drama of the previous night, each individual episode could have been avoided in its entirety if the offenders would have simply adhered to this wise direction. All of us fail to think of how someone else might feel in many situations. We say things without thought and act without thinking how the recipient of our thoughts and actions might feel. Then we have the audacity to act surprised at the consequences that may then follow. I think we all need to take a moment and realize how these sagacious adages from our childhood can carry over into our adult lives. Some are easier than others. Most of us manage to not talk with our mouths full, we certainly look both ways before we cross the street, and we certainly know better than to run with scissors. But when it comes to the hard stuff like doing unto others and we would have done to us or my current focus of thinking before we speak there is a struggle between law and execution of such.

the saga continues...

mealymouthed: indirect speech; hypocritical; evasive
prevaricate: lie
luminary: celebrity; dignitary
nefarious: very wicked
cavil: make frivolous objections
recalcitrant: obstinately stubborn
paltry: insignificant; petty
improvident: thriftless
munificent: very generous
splenetic: Affected or marked by ill humor or irritability
asperity: sharpness of temper
fetter: shackle; something that serves to restrict
predilection: preference; partiality
castigate: punishment or severe criticism
gambol: skip; leap playfully
mellifluous: sweetly flowing; melodious
vouchsafe: to grant or bestow
jettison: throw overboard
gamely: with courage or in a spirited manner
desultory: aimless; haphazard
ingenue: naive & trusting
denizen: habitant; resident
apostate: one who abandons their religion
mendicant: beggar
impecunious: without money
petulant: touchy

Welcome to my world...

chary: adj. cautious; wary.
cogent: adj. convincing.
desiccate: v. dry up; to make dry, dull, or lifeless.
dissolution: n. disintegration; looseness in morals.
extrapolation: n. projection; conjecture.
exingency: n. urgent situation.
flag: v. droop; grow feeble.
fatuous: adj. foolish, inane.
felicitous: adj. suitably expressed; well chosen.
flout: v. reject; mock.
foment: v. stir up; instigate.
gainsay: v. deny.
garrulous: adj. loquacious; wordy.
goad: v. urge on.
gouge: v. overcharge
guileless: adj. without deceit.
iconoclastic: adj. attacking cherished traditions.
inchoate: adj. recently begun; rudimentary.
indigence: n. poverty.
ingenuous: adj. naive and trusting; young; unsophisticated.
insipid: adj. lacking in flavor; dull.
insensible: adj. unconscious; unresponsive.
insularity: n. narrow-mindedness; isolation.
intransigence: n. refusal of any compromise; stubborness.
inured: adj. accustomed; hardened.
invective: n. abuse.
laconic: adj. brief and to the point.
lassitude: n. weariness.
levity: n. lack of seriousness or steadiness; frivolity.
magnanimity: n. genorosity.
malingerer: n. one who feigns illness to escape duty.
maverick: n. rebel.
mendacious: adj. lying; habitually dishonest.
mollify: v. soothe.
obliquity: n. deviation from a vertical or horizontal line, plane, position, or direction.
parsimonious: adj. stinginess; excessive frugality.
obdurate: adj. stubborn
quixotic: adj. idealistic without regard to practicality.

empowerment....

Meredith: You dont get to call me a whore. When I met you I thought I had found the person that I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I was done. So all the boys, and all the bars, and all the obvious daddy issues, who cared because I was done. You left me, you chose Adison. I'm all glued back together now. I make no apologies for how I chose to repair what you broke. You don't get to call me a whore!

Oh...Grey's Anatomy! I was thinking of this quote today because some blog I read was talking about the best quotes of the season and as a woman you really kind of wanted to stand up and clap for Meredith..perhaps cheer...because its rare when we, as women, get to speak our minds in such a way to the men that have hurt us or are just being an unbelievable dick...but when you can its as equally scary as it is empowering.

No one likes to do what they're not good at....

I was just thinking that it is kinda crazy that the fear of failure often outweighs the possibility to succeed.
I may be more guilty of this than you.
I think it has to do with focus.
If we can focus on the experience and not the upshot than perhaps our successes might outweigh our failures.
And if you atleast tried than did you really fail?